Spanking or slapping your child is linked to more aggression in Kids. According to new researches spanking and slapping your kids have long term, harmful effects on their development. It has been found that their is link between such everyday physical punishments and higher levels of child aggression. This type of child discipline do not show positive long term effects.
Physical punishments might get a child to do something in the immediate situation, there are many side effects that can develop over the long term. "For example, the more often a child sees a parent respond to conflict or frustration with slapping or spanking, the more likely that child will do the same when confronting their own conflicts.
A mother who spanked her child at the age of 3 years will have high risk of higher levels of aggression at the age of 5 years.major factor could be that some parents have little knowledge or understanding of why children behave like they do. "They are more likely to believe that their child is being defiant or intentionally bad, but in most cases, children are simply doing what is normal for their development,"
Start early with positive discipline
Based on years of research, however, more and more doctors are encouraging parents to discipline their children with positive, nonviolent approaches.
Clinical psychologist Kimberly Sirl says that Parents should start out really young — as early as 12 months old.
Parents should teach theirs kids to cope with frustration, how to share and how to be patient.
Parents needs to handle the situation calmly.
What you can do to encourage good behavior???
Ignoring or Redirecting negative behavior
Don't loose your temper. Be patient. For example, toddlers say no to everything, so the best thing to do when they're acting out is either ignore them briefly (for roughly 10 seconds) or redirect their negative behavior.
Encourage good behavior
If you want to encourage good behavior, provide them with reward or praise.
Make yourself an example for your kids. Your kids will follow your rules only if they would see you following them. We should let them know that grownups have to follow rules too.Instead of saying, "do this [be]cause I told you so," it's best to explain to kids why there are rules.